Brutal Honesty

The first thing you need to know about surving amongst Germans is that they are brutally honest. If you are overweight at all, be prepared for 75% of your German friends to remind you of the fact that you are fat at least one time. In fact if you move to Germany, don’t bother buying a bathroom scale, some acquaintance will always let you know if you have gained a pound.

All around the world children say exactly what they are thinking. Eventually children of every other nationality on Earth learn that some things are best kept to yourself. The concept of a “little white lie” just doesn’t exist in German culture. Germans just don’t possess the talent to let you know how they feel in some sugar-coated way. Simply put, Germans are brutally honest, you have to learn to deal with it.

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24 Responses to “Brutal Honesty”

  1. Bettina Says:

    Na dann mal ganz brutal ehrlich: dieser Blog ist echt der Hammer! Habe selten so gelacht… :-D Auch wenn ich ja eigentlich beleidigt sein sollte, als Deutsche?!

  2. Jana Says:

    Man ich krieg mich nich mehr ein! Einfach nur zum totlachen hier…aber hey…manches ist einfach nur wahr. Ehrlich!

  3. iamwudu Says:

    i think this attitude isn’t that bad actually. Getting honest responses lets you reflect yourself easier and gives you the possibility to improve yourself. And we surely know what white lies are, we just have a higher inhibition threshold to make use of them. ^

  4. Lizz Says:

    I love this about Germans!
    I’m like this too…it’s not such a good thing in Canada. People just think you’re really rude! Meh *shrugs shoulders*

  5. John Says:

    Yeah, it is pretty cool, once you get used to it.

  6. Miriam Says:

    Wow!! I´m deeply impressed by this blog, it´s great! I love it! =)

  7. fswerk Says:

    well we can´t be bothered with having to beat around the bush the whole time.

  8. Oelsen Says:

    After reading all entries i put your blog into “speed dial” (i use opera). now i expect more every day :P

    PS: as a swiss german i know http://www.blogwiese.ch/ and i think you will be putting the same topics as Wiese wrote about in his blog. Simply because we all here are somewhat weird.

  9. julieeeee Says:

    this is crackin me up because its actually true!!!!

  10. Adrian Says:

    MEH!

    I am German - and I love your way to tell stuff about us.

    But next time you put sweets into beer I will delcare WAR on all of you … americans!

  11. John Says:

    Adrian, I am pretty sure it Germany who stepped over the line on this one with Waldmeister beer. Once you guys started ignoring the Reinheitsgebot, things have gotten way out of hand.

  12. simi1983 Says:

    yup that’s us. in 8 of 10 cases when i go to my classes at university i’m greeted with a friendly “mensch, schaust du fertig aus”
    which is cool cause you get to complain about all the stress and rescent illnesses you had. the only thing you have to remember is to try to get away before the person who greeted you in the first place starts to tell you his or her illness-account of the last month ;)

  13. Thomas Says:

    One slightly annoying effect of this is honesty, when Americans say “how are you”, Germans actually think they’re *really* interested in how they are and start to explain how they are. This can be a bit embarrassing for waiters, supermarket checkout staff etc. … :)

    When Germans are telling you you look awful, they actually feel they’re being *polite* in a special way: After all, they’re not ignoring your sorry state but worrying about you. ;) It can also be an inverted compliment, like “I really admire you for working so hard that you end up looking like this”…

  14. Besuch Says:

    Obwohl “white lie” richtig übersetzt ist, wäre Höflickeitslüge in diesem Fall das bessere wort. Ehrlich wie wir sind :-)

  15. Annika Says:

    Ich fürchte, meine Kollegen hassen mich manchmal für diese brutale Ehrlichkeit… anscheinend schätzen also auch nicht alle Deutschen dieses Konzept!

  16. Anna Says:

    Well, if i got anything in my teeth I really would like to get that information, instead of running the whole day through the city with spinach in my teeth

  17. lapuce Says:

    Even though I’m afraid to be a typical German Besserwisser, the concept Notlüge is going in the same direction of little white lie…
    Just to let you know :)

    La puce (who was told pretty often by French friends that she was not very diplomatic)

  18. Max Says:

    That’s definitely NOT always true. While you may find that the citizens of Berlin are incredibly honest, the Schwaben are a tad too secretive for my taste.

  19. grumpy Says:

    That´s completely true! We softhearted little Germans love our fellow men too much: we simply cannot look them straight in the eyes and tell them lies!
    That is also the reason why we are quite rude compared to other nations. Politeness is simply considered as lying and when you have a bad day it´s an obligation that you let everybody know!

    By the way: we love your page! Really!

  20. Mel Says:

    It’s all about saving time - why explain to a colleague that his idea is really good but should be done in a slightly different way etc. etc. instead of just saying “That’s not gonna work, we have to think of something else”.
    But wait, that would get rid of the Americas’ favorite thing -MEETINGS! ;)

    But it’s really true, and a reason why some Americans think Germans are rude.

  21. Henning Says:

    As long your are told the truth you don’t have to worry. Just be aware of getting one-sentence-answears on the favorite American question (How are you?/How are you doing?). Very often this means that one isn’t interested in you at all. In my opinion worse then getting a honest answear :D

    Although there are people that are even more honest then otheres, I am emberassed by them too.

  22. Sabine Says:

    In return, Americans appear to be shallow to Germans!

  23. P.K. Says:

    Some other European seem to be honest too.
    If you just let them do so.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSF5YkyabuQ

  24. Xaromir Says:

    I’ve made it all the way to the end of this blog.
    Do i get a prize now?

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